14.3.09

To change or not to change

Recently, I have been becoming increasing frustrated with people assuming that because I have got married I have changed my name. What's even worse is when people ask you and you tell them you haven't and they still continue to use the other name.

There are several reasons I chose to keep my own name, firstly, Tim's ex wife still calls herself Mrs H and as she has the same initial as me, it would be confusing to the postman and I didn't want to be mixed up with her, she is horrible. Secondly, I have no wish to be Mrs, for the same reason I have always called myself Ms rather than Miss, that for men then generally get called Mr all their lives and there is no differentiation between married and unmarried. Finally, I see the taking of your husbands name an outdated fashion which was born in the days when women were generally thought of as a possession and had very few rights of their own. They were either their fathers daughters or their husbands wives and the surname showed who they belonged to. I do not belong to any one and I like the name I was given at birth, my parents thought about the names they would given me that went together and ARL are better initials than ARH. In Hungary, women have never taken their husbands name. When we get to having children I want them to have Tim's name, the rest of their names will be though of in conjunction with that surname.

posted by Amy @ 12:01 1 Comments